Heavy & Happy?

Body image

Weight

Fit

Fat

Diet

Fasting

Health

Wellness

Skinny

They’re all words that are in our every day vernacular.

But for many of us, they all have a much deeper meaning.

And for a lot of us, all of these words are just crazy-making and have been for our whole lives.

In my teens, 20s & 30s, I gave a majority of my energy, my precious mental energy, to thinking about how fat I was and how I could quickly get skinny.

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This mama (me) spent this particular weekend away feeling fat & miserable. Feels like such a waste of energy now. 😦

Good times.

Now, in my 40s, I would LOVE to be as ‘fat’ as I thought I was!

I have put on weight.

I am carrying extra weight.

But for the first time in my life, I do not give it a lot of mental energy.

And when I do – because I do out of habit, a lifetime of habit – I shift myself away from these thoughts.

My precious mental energy, my spirit & my life deserve so much more.

I found that over the past few year that any time I would decide to ‘diet’ or radically change my diet (read: restrict), I would become so cranky. So irritable. And kinda nasty to those I love.

My spirit cried out. ‘Oh girlfriend, not again with this!!!’

So I stopped. Stopped thinking about dieting, losing weight and being ‘thin.’

And whenever I did, I just shifted my thoughts.

AWAY AWAY AWAY from ‘You are fat’ type of thoughts.

I have allowed myself to eat whatever I want.

Whenever I want.

And guess what?

I have gained weight.

And while this is not the best thing ever, or the most surprising thing ever, I don’t worry too much about it.

Why?

Because I cannot remember the last time I binged.

I did a lot of binge-before-dieting type behavior and that has added to my weight gain.

Now I rarely feel ‘sick’ after eating.

I used to eat A LOT because I knew I would be dieting, fasting or cleansing soon. Knew that soon I would be cutting all the horrible things out of my diet so I constantly overate as if I was in a panic. Exhausting, I tell ya.

And I’d feel very stuffed & bloated all the time. And I felt ‘sick’ so no wonder I felt the need to fast, cleanse, take a break from ‘bad’ foods.

I hardly ever do now.

I used to eat a TON of pasta because I knew that I ‘shouldn’t’ and would be cutting it out of my diet ASAP.

I love pasta and eat it now, occasionally. Some weeks more than others but I do not crave it like crazy like before.

I used to go out to eat to ‘treat’ myself before the big restriction was coming and I had a favorite place that included a very large meal & boozy drinks that I would have (read: stuff madly into my pie hole).

I can’t remember the last time I did that.

So while I am carrying extra weight, I am mentally lighter.

I am less stressed and less crabby around this stuff.

I eat well, often quite ‘healthy.’

My goal is to completely trust that my physical being will catch up with my spiritual & mental lightness and I will be able to achieve a weight that is perfect for me and do this easily.

And the more I focus on creating a mindset that is positive & full of possibility, ease, miracles & fun the more easy it is to make good decisions for myself. It has really works wonder. My mindset has become my biggest asset – ass size be damned! 😉

But seriously, I have stopped gaining weight and whilst I’m at a plateau, I feel good.

My spirit, my soul & my personality love variety, experiences, freedom & fun. Eating a restrictive diet of ANY kind, I have now learned (slowly but surely), makes me a complete nutbag, a bitch & a sad sack. Just a big ole sack o’ sad. I KNOW how to eat well. I KNOW I can eat what I want in a normal capacity especially if I’m not feeling like a crazed animal locked in a cage (cuz then I eat everything in sight). I love things like green juice, smoothies, salads & all kinds of healthy foods. But I crave variety & freedom so the thought of ONLY eating these foods does my spirit no. good. I am learning to trust myself and out of that trust has come a much more balanced way of eating. And that feels good.

I recently joined a gym. To keep my body moving through our chilly (although not lately!) New England winter. No big goals. No stressful goals. Just movement. Keeping moving is so important, mostly because it feels good!

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Hi.

So heavy & happy?

Yup, pretty much!

And yup, I have to continually remind myself that while I could easily lose weight fast with a very restrictive diet & lots of exercise, I want to be in a place where I do not have to do that. I want to enjoy life, experience everything. Not worry about what I am eating. And as I slowly but surely trust myself & know that it’s all coming together because I FEEL so much better mentally, I will get to a place of balance – body, mind & spirit.

Patience, trust, gratitude.

That’s where it’s at.

That’s where I’m at (or at least shift to when I’m not). Some days/weeks go better than others but after a lifetime of this, it takes time to not to think the thoughts you always have. Patience, I remind myself, patience. And remembering how good I feel, how ‘light’ my mind feels is so very important!

I hope that wherever you are in your journey to making peace with yourself (if you have to like I do), that you are patient, kind, trusting & feeling grateful for the awesome & strong person you are.

Because you really are.

Yes. You.

xoxoxo

Love,

Adrienne

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Rewrite, rework, refine (Mindset Monday)

When I first began writing and reading my Mindset Book last winter, I first used it as an action plan kind of thing and a journal.

Then it got more specific and I began to write intentions and affirmations (ones that felt true to me and enough of a stretch without feeling completely ridonkulous).

Recently, I started a whole new book with some pretty hard core intentions that are super specific.

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One has already come true in that book as did some of the things in the original book.

On our journey to what’s next, what’s now and what’s up we need to rewrite, rework and refine.

I actually didn’t know this!

I thought I’d write it and then just keep reading that until it all came true.

 

But what I realized is that for one, you just have to get started. Start writing stuff down however it comes to you.

You then can feel out each statement and tweak it.

I just realized last week that much of what I am writing down is not super specific and goodness knows, the Universe (or the Big U as I like to call it) LOVES specifics.

Previously, the vague declarations felt just right.

But now, as things have been really flowing, I have more clarity and wanted what I was reading to reprogram my brain to be in more alignment with this next phase. So I got clear!

Your clarity evokes serious Universal energy your way helping you flow in exactly the right direction.

But so many times there is no clarity until we start digging. Start leaning into what we want. Get our hands (and spirit) on how we want to feel.

So get writing.

Get some clarity.

Or just get it all out.

Then trim it down when the time feels right.

Rewrite, rework, refine…and of course REREAD (like all the time, I read my books twice a day).

Do it all this re-ing time or whenever you are inspired to do it.

And watch life unfold.

It actually IS that easy.

Love,

Adrienne

 

5 Benefits to Just Getting Started (Entrepreneurial Spirit Saturday)

Let’s say you have a dream.

Big goals.

You want more for your life and your business.

You have a gnawing at you that you can’t shake.

You want to do SOMETHING.

But you don’t know exactly what.

Or you don’t know what it looks like or how exactly to get there.

Your goals seem too big.

The mountain is too high to climb, it seems.

So you don’t do anything.

Time passes.

But there is always that thought in the back of your mind…what if I had just gotten started? Where would I be??

We live in a world that LOVES the idea of perfection.

We focus on the people who have gotten ‘there,’ see that as the end-all-be-all and feel that HOW IN THE WORLD COULD I EVER GET THERE?!?!?

AND there is also focus on the failures, those who have tried and failed. And that is seen as some sort of horror show, embarrassment, loserville.

It makes it all harder, this all-or-nothing mentality.

This winner/loser paradigm.

A few months ago, I decided to just get started.

Move forward on all the things that were in my head and that I wanted to do.

At that time, I did not know what my ‘getting started’ would look like but I knew at some point I would just do it and get started.

After writing down what I wanted and some intentions and goals, I figured out a way to begin.

So I did.

The Summer Blitz was created.

The Expansion Academy was started.

And I will tell you this, these have had big benefits already and I’m just getting started!

Here are just some:

1. You begin to find your voice

Whether you are blogging, making videos, public speaking, writing, seeing patients or just wanting to grow your business, any forward movement usually forces you to clarify your point and raise your voice (not in a hostile way but in an authoritative, confident way). And you cannot do this until you try. Your voice will never be truly heard if you do not get started.

2. People find you

If you do not get started, no one can find you. Whether you want to create a tribe of followers, more clients, more patients, more money or more creativity you have to get started so people can find you.

3. Opportunity flows

It seems that once you get started in a forward movement, more opportunity comes your way. Since you are committing to getting out there and moving forward with your dreams, the Universe hears you and things begin flow in miraculous ways.

4. You cut the fat (literally and figuratively) 

As you begin to move forward you get more clarity on the things you want and most importantly THE THINGS YOU DO NOT WANT. The extra fat gets trimmed from your dreams and goals because you are realizing what works for you (and your audience) and you move forward with that and not the stuff that does not work.

And also!!! When you are in the flow of your dreams, in the flow of expansion and possibility, you are excited, busy and a lot of the time having fun. I notice that I am less likely to need comfort foods or drown my sorrows in a few glasses of chardonnay. While I am not dropping pounds left and right, my weight has lowered for sure and I am feeling great. I’d say that’s a HUGE benefit.

5. Money

There is never any guarantee that money flows to you just because you have gotten started. But what is true is that when you are in this flow – creating, moving forward, helping, healing, getting in your grove – if this is truly what is to be, the money flows.

In just these past few weeks, I have increased my followers and mailing list, gotten clarity, opportunity has knocked and I feel really great – body, mind and soul. Since the money I plan to make from my business is not part of the picture yet, the money is not there BUT…

I am committed to what I am doing and not only am I having fun, I am moving forward with my goals and my dreams and that feels amazing.

So how about you?

Are you going to get started?

Move forward?

Just fucking do it?

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I hope so!!!

If you are feeling stuck, trust me, I’ve been there and it’s okay.

Just get a journal and start writing. Your hopes, dreams, goals, intentions and frustrations (and when those frustrations go away, rip those pages out!!). This will help you, I promise. That is how I started by just writing it all down.

Share it all in the comments below or on Facebook – tell us if you are getting started, you’ve gotten started or your a bit stuck in frustrationville.

Let’s all cheer each other on!

xo

Adrienne

How to create a limitless mindset

Today is Mindset Monday!

The Summer Blitz is rolling along STRONG!

I feel like we are just getting started.

Thank you for being here!!

Very early this morning I made a video on how to create a mindset for yourself to expand all the possibilities in your life.

What I did not mention in the video is that the first step is to:

COMMIT

Commit to your hopes and dreams.

Commit to the flow of possibility, freedom, love and miracles.

There are a few other steps and we will be talking about those in the weeks to come.

Enjoy today’s video and find out the one thing that has made a HUGE difference in my mindset and how I set forth to create this.

Are you going to write your book?

Let me know in the comments below or on Facebook or post a pic of your book that you are going to start on Instagram with the tags #MindsetMonday #SummerBlitz #AdrienneMartin

You deserve a mindset that is more aligned with your true self. Who you really are and full of possibility!

xo

Adrienne

 

The meatball sub and half bottle of wine

It was around Christmas time last year.

I was out running errands with my two young daughters.

While they were in the backseat singing along to the latest pop song, I was rumination a situation over and OVER in my mind.

One of our errands was to try out some meatballs that I was going to get for Christmas dinner. I wanted to be sure they were yummy, of course, so I stopped at an Italian deli to try theirs. I ordered a meatball sub.

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On the way home from getting the meatball sub, my mind kept obsessing about this particular situation.

I stopped to get some wine. I thought a glass would go nice with the meatball sub.

On the way home from the wine stop, my mind really kept going.

To the point of me being in a COMPLETE RAGE over this particular thing.

I pulled into the driveway. Slammed the car into park and told the girls to hurry up and get inside.

I put them in front of the TV. I knew I was struggling and did not want them to see me so upset.

My mind was on FIRE.

I began to clean up in the kitchen. And as my mind raged on, I slammed dishes.

Then I went into the bedroom.  I slammed books to the floor.

To say I was bundled was a complete understatement.

I went back into the kitchen.

While my mind was still STILL ruminating, I inhaled my meatball sub in rage.

I pounded a 1/2 bottle of wine.

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Obviously, trying to soothe my soul.

It didn’t work. Heck, I didn’t even get a buzz, my mind burned up all the alcohol with its’ rage.

The mind is very powerful.

I sat there exhausted, horrified, upset, defeated.

How could I let something, something so, in all actuality, small – RUIN ME?

Because my mind was a prison.

And I say WAS because it no longer is.

A few weeks after this, I finally, after a lifetime of being trapped in my mind, surrendered to a myriad of things. Mostly, I surrendered to having no idea what to do anymore but I could not live this way.

Once I surrendered, miracles began to unfold and life began to flow.

It was as astonishing!

I write this today for a few reasons.

One, because I am not perfect. My mind still wants to go back to the hamster wheel, being the victim, ruminating over small things, big things, things that it has no control over, making shit up because it is so fearful of the unknown.

But now I am the observer. I see this happening sometimes and occasionally I even laugh! Thinking, ‘Oh look! This is what has always happened! Silly mind.’

I understand now, more than ever, how my mind likes to work. I am seeing so very clearly the patterns and blocks and some of the ridiculousness (not said in a negative way but seriously, sometimes it is just RIDONKULOUS).

Second, because I want to share with you that I know. I have been there. I, up until quite recently, have struggled quite a bit.

And thirdly, because I want to let you know that the prison that the mind can have us in, the hamster wheel that we can get on (and can’t seem to get off of) can be scary and stressful and defeating and downright fucking ANNOYING.

But I believe from the bottom of my heart that it is not the declaration that ‘this will never happen again!!’ or ‘I can stop this and be better, perfect, not so easily upset etc.’ is the answer. To fight against this or to push this away does no good.

I believe the answer is: SURRENDER. Surrendering to the fact that this is happening.

SURRENDER.

I surrendered to the fact that my mind was a prison. I surrendered to the fact that I had been doing the SAME thing for 35 years (yup, since I was 8) and I was stuck, seeing the same patterns over and OVER playing out in my life.

I full on gave up.

I did not give up on myself, I gave up the FIGHT against myself.

Can you relate to this?

Can you surrender to anything?

Sometimes we can only surrender to the fact that we CANNOT surrender.

And that is okay. Honestly, it is a start and your soul (where your true self lies) and your divine hear you!

They really do.

Be patient. Keep surrendering.

Please share any comments or anything that resonates with you below.

Thanks!

Love,

Adrienne

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