I am no expert on happiness and have learned a lot about what happiness is NOT.
Last year I had moments of sheer, unadulterated bliss.
This was a bit foreign to me but man was is AWESOME.
It had a lot to do with a two things.
One being Oneness.
Another being giving up (you can read more about this in one of my most popular blog posts What Happened When I Stopped Trying).
When I gave up and decided to just BE and go with the flow and guess what? Life flowed in a beautiful, glorious way. How about that? It was fascinating! And so very freeing for me.
Now in those first few weeks of giving up trying to: be more ~ do more ~ diet ~ exercise ~ figure out what the fuck I was doing with my life ~ be perfect ~ thinner ~ better (are you exhausted yet? I sure was), things were hard. How could I change this mind that had been the same way, thinking the same things forever?? But I did. Each and every time my mind would wander to the thoughts that had plagued me for a lifetime, I would steer them to the present and to NOT thinking about any of that stuff I wrote above. I would actually tip my head to the side as if to say ‘NO! MIND – DO NOT DO THAT!’ I was often doing this a few times AN HOUR! But after a few weeks it became easier and easier. It helped that spring was coming and I was out and about more (New England winters can be a bitch).
One day, I was at Castle Island, in South Boston and spring was in full effect. I laid under this tree on a small blanket.
I almost wept.
As I lay there, a feeling of complete bliss came over me.
I was beyond happy and grateful to be laying there, basking in the sun, under this miracle of nature.
My family joined me a bit later and we ate cupcakes and played in the park.
I felt that life could not get any better.
This feeling continued through the spring and into the summer.
During the summer I had to work a little harder at shifting my mind because my physical body did not look as I wanted (and this was something I struggled with most of my life ‘How was I not going to be a fatty in the summer.’ Ugh). But I shifted my thoughts to how fucking good I felt and how that was WAY more worth it than worrying about my extra weight. Even when I had to have my favorite guy friend hoist me out of the water because I couldn’t pull myself into his boat after trying to go tubing ~ this was all quite humiliating folks and could have sent a gal over the edge ~ I managed to keep my thoughts light and of self-acceptance. It was HARD but I did it.
Then in the fall, I went to a spiritual growth weekend to deepen my awakening with Oneness.
It was awesome. I just loved it.
AND!! I felt I was given (downloaded from the Divine, if you will) the most fabulous idea for business. I had always wanted to create a business for myself, mostly online, that could help me serve the world, my family and myself. So there I was at my Oneness Blessing weekend and BOOM! Idea after idea after idea, all under this sweet little umbrella.
I went home and executed my idea immediately. A divine idea Divinely given? Can’t lose right?
Well I did.
Not ‘lose’ per se but maybe more like missed the mark.
Now I know why.
All my anxieties, stresses and the over-minding I had been doing my whole life took over. As I sprang into action, I changed my blissful way of thinking to the DO MORE BE MORE GIT SHIT DONE NOW of yesteryear. But I believed I COULD make this all better and more and perfect. It seemed perfect. As I tried to drive the bus. As I tried to push and create.
I gave up pretty quickly and feel embarrassed about that.
AND then just went into a place in my mind where there tends to be a suckage-fest.
All the old crap came back.
Oh dear lord where is my blissful spring????
Will I ever be happy like that again?
Where can I go get a lobotomy?
So what has happened this year?
Ah, my friends, you will just have to wait.
Part II will come soon.
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Thank you for reading and sharing!