I have the absolute worst habit of surfing the ‘net and getting caught up in what others are doing and how I am not doing as well as they are etc etc.
It’s about as low energy as you can get when you are trying to move forward in your life and your business.
I hadn’t really even noticed I was doing it until the other day when I was comparing myself to these guys:
They just wrapped up a retreat in Costa Rica and are all tanned, fabulous, a bit outrageous, young, care-free, and on a path to help the world be a better place – their way. They are 100% THEM. It is very inspiring to see but I am jealous of the whole idea.
Really??? I thought to myself. I am going THERE!?!? I am a 43 yo SAHM who lives in New England. So just right there is NO comparison. It’s just silly. And a colossal waste of time.
But we can get caught up in these things, and while it is not horrible, it is important to catch it, notice it, and change the energy.
Last year, I went totally offline for a month and off Facebook for six months because of this very issue. Too too TOO much time looking at what OTHERS were doing.
And now, a year later, as I am about to really grow my business, I find myself doing EXACTLY the same thing, this same habit again.
Seems like a bit of self-sabotage, doesn’t it??
So I am backing off a little, less surfing, more focus, and more time doing work for me (so I can focus on helping YOU!!).
Are you comparing yourself to anyone, anything? Your neighbor? Some online person? Some thing that it is unattainable so that it keeps you feeling bad about yourself, keeps you feeling small, keeps you from stepping into who you want to be, OR keeping you from being at peace with who you are and where you are at.
So if you find yourself comparing yourself to anything, stop, check in, and change the energy. Appreciate your surroundings, all your strengths and faults, all the mess, the goodness, the stuff that makes your life rich and real even if it is not always so purdy. And be genuinely HAPPY for those who are doing things you want to do/be/etc. This is a much higher vibration and just feels better than being jealous or feeling bad about yourself. This is what I did with those cute, tanned brothers. I said ‘GOOD FOR THEM!’ And then clicked off their website and focused on what I could do to move forward in that moment.
Have you had similar experiences? Please share them below or share any tips you have to avoid the dreaded comparison trap.
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